Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 25

Mistress Amelia asks:
There is definitely a rise in feminized men in western countries. What percentage of women desire to feminize men and transition them to a feminine lifestyle?

Sissy Dani responds:

That’s a tough question to answer. I started by looking for any polling or other statistics on women who participate in feminization; my search came up empty. So, I’m afraid my answer will be largely anecdotal.

On my list of blogs I follow, there are a half-dozen or so written by men who have been feminized by their female partners or by women who have feminized their male partners. The comments on those blogs would indicate that for every pairing of this kind, there are some 10 to 20 others who are either living the same lifestyle or would like to. Of course, there is no real way for me to investigate that all these people are “real” or not just engaging in a fantasy. Still, combined with the growing audience for shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race and for activities like womanless beauty pageants, the evidence exists for a community of feminizing dominant women and their submissive partners.

Many of these couples appear to have begun as more “vanilla”. Often, they might be described as a “female-led relationship” or FLR, in which the woman partner takes on the duties and activities more usually expected to be the male’s domain—primary earner, controlling the budget, even making decisions about sexual activity. In time, to reinforce that sense of control, the woman begins to demand that the man behave more like a typical woman, right down to how he dresses. It might start with aprons and then move on to panties and nighties, and later to completely feminine attire at all times.

The man’s willingness to acquiesce to this treatment is often enhanced by tying it to sexual satisfaction. He is denied orgasm unless wearing feminine clothing, for instance; in some cases, the in-charge woman may insist that his only sexual activity is cunnilingus, turning him into a “male lesbian”, or anal penetration with a strap-on dildo (often referred to as “pegging”). Soon, the male will prefer these methods to any others and will happily play the part of a submissive, feminized toy in order to achieve arousal and satisfaction.

How many of these couples live this way full time, 24/7? Enough, perhaps, for there to be a number of successful companies who cater to them by providing feminine clothing in sizes that fit the male physique, including outfits for maids and other domestic servants.

Our dialogue will be taking a hiatus for the summer. Look for a return after Labor Day.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 24

Sissy Dani asks:
Should a female boss insist on a feminine dress code for all employees—male and female?

When it comes to a female-owned and -managed business, I would strongly approve and encourage the women to set a dress and behavior policy that is strictly feminine.

The type of business will determine whether the dress code is casual, dressy casual, semi-formal or business formal. Females should be given more flexibility in dress which include tailored slacks. Males will not be allowed to wear slacks. They must always be in skirts or dresses and heels.

Casual dress code is synonymous with comfort yet it demands a sense of style. This is not about your loungewear or the oversized tee you love for lazy Sundays. It's about striking a balance between ease and fashion. It's the realm where sundresses, neat jeans, and tailored shorts reign. The key is to look approachable and relaxed while maintaining a polished appearance. What to Wear: Opt for a sundress, a long or short skirt, jeans, khakis, or well-fitted jeans. Pair these with a plain T-shirt, polo, turtleneck, or a casual button-down blouse.

Navigating through the Dressy Casual terrain can be tricky, but it's all about a sophisticated touch to everyday wear. It's less about formality and more about looking well put together. Perfect for occasions that are casual yet require a hint of elegance. What to Wear: Choose from a variety of options like a stylish dress, a skirt paired with a dressy top, dressy pants outfits, or nice jeans teamed with a chic top.

Semi-Formal attire is your opportunity to shine without the rigidity of full formal wear. It's often chosen for events like dinner parties, business gatherings, or weddings. This dress code calls for polished, graceful outfits that are a notch above everyday wear but not as extravagant as formal attire. What to Wear: A short afternoon or cocktail dress, a "little black dress", a long dressy skirt and top, or dressy separates can make perfect outfits for semi-formal events.

Business Formal is where professionalism meets style. Often a requirement in corporate environments, this dress code is about projecting authority and competence. While it's more structured, there's room for personal expression through color choices and subtle accessories. What to Wear: A suit, a business-style dress, a dress with a jacket and heels (either low or high) are great choices.

Males should be complimented and reinforced for their feminine dress and deportment. Women should be complimented and reinforced for their competency and leadership skills. The women should introduce feminine activities and hobbies to the males. The males should participate in activities that are traditionally associated with femininity, such as cooking, crafting, or dancing. This will help them become more comfortable with their feminine self.

Mistress Amelia asks: There is definitely a rise in feminized men in western countries. What percentage of women desire to feminize men and transition them to a feminine lifestyle?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 23

Mistress Amelia asks:
How does a male incorporate being a sissy into his everyday life and still work as a man?

Sissy Dani replies:

The obvious response is that he wears feminine attire under his male clothing—panties, camisoles, stockings, possibly even a bra. But that may not be enough to satisfy his own girlish desires or the demands of his Mistress. So what else is possible?

He can make changes to his appearance that are not blatant, but reflect his feminine self. For instance, he may have his hair styled in a unisex or even feminine manner. It could be colored or frosted or highlighted; he might even get a permanent wave. A feminine manicure is a possibility, with a subtle pink color applied. Cosmetics might also be used to hint at a more girlish appearance—a pink lip gloss, or a light application of mascara on his lashes. Careful trimming and shaping of his brows can assist in a feminine look.

Of course, in the modern world, the differences between male and female clothing can be less obvious. A silk shirt in a delicate pastel (peach or lavender, for example) conveys a feminine appearance. The collar can be designed to emphasize girlishness—a long pointed look is clearly intended for a woman. And, naturally, buttons on the “wrong” side will add to the effect. Women’s slacks can also be found in sizes that will fit a male body…and will convey a different look: They generally fit more closely over the ass and have a more flowing, loose fit over the lower leg. Many styles designed for women will have zippers on the side or the back, rather than the front.

Footwear choice can also be important. Patent leather will always seem more feminine…and a mild heel (one-and-a-half inches in height) will enforce a more girlish gait. Visible bows and buckles may also hint at his feminine preferences.

Naturally, there are other things that a “secret sissy” can do. He should always sit when using the toilet (choosing panties and feminine slacks will enforce this). His choices at meals can be more girlish as well—light salads as opposed to burgers or sandwiches, for example. He should act as if he expects to be treated as a female—wait for the door to be opened and held, be served first in the restaurant. He should ask for assistance when handling heavy or bulky packages or going up and down steep stairs. His handshake should be limp-wristed rather than a firm grip; in fact, greeting with a casual wave might be preferable.

As time goes by, and his employer and co-workers become accustomed to his girlish ways, he can begin to increase his outer sissyness until, finally, he arrives at work in dress, heels and full makeup as the sissy he is meant to be.

Sissy Dani asks:
Should a female boss insist on a feminine dress code for all employees—male and female?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 22

Sissy Dani asks:
How should a dominant woman respond to a male who asks to be feminized?

Mistress Amelia responds:
That's an excellent question. It is important to first ask about the male's background, seriousness about the request and willingness to totally submit to a dominant.

I usually find that most males who desire to be feminized have many "Buts"
- But I can only be feminized in private
- But I can't have any physical body changes
- But I have family that will not approve
- But I have a job where I must be in male clothes

The male must be 100% ready for the journey to total feminization. It's a step-by-step approach. Physical and emotional changes. Willingness to completely submit to the dominant and accept sissification. The strong desire to be a girly girl and incorporate that into every aspect of his life--pretty dresses, feminine clothes and attitude, etc.

Question for Sissy Dani:
How does a male incorporate being a sissy into his everyday life and still work as a man?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 21

Mistress Amelia asks:
Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage, strength, athleticism, coordination, testosterone, male libido, and stoic calm, all of which have traditionally been associated with masculinity and considered important to the male role in Western society.

The above defines sissy in a negative male sense. How would you define "sissy" in a positive female sense? What are the most desirable feminine traits that a sissy should possess and why?

Sissy Dani responds:

Wow! What a great question!

A sissy is, if anything, even more traditionally feminine than a real woman. A sissy is considerate, obedient, always deferring to the wishes of others—especially women. A sissy is never bossy or defiant.

A sissy chooses clothes that emphasize girliness. Even if trousers should be required, they are of a decidedly feminine design—tight-fitting in the waist and butt, flowing and floaty in the leg. Or they are styles normally associated with girls—capri pants or pedal-pushers. A sissy prefers fabrics such as silk and satin, pastel colors like pink and lavender, patterns such as polka dots and florals.

A sissy is affectionate. A sissy greets friends with a peck on the cheek or an air-kiss. A sissy loves to sit on laps and hold hands. When appropriate, a sissy is flirtatious and is always open to public displays of affection.

A sissy is poised and delicate. A sissy moves with ease and grace. In heels (which a sissy almost always wears), a sissy will mince, not strut. A sissy does not run; if haste is required, a sissy moves with a series of quick, short steps, never striding more than about six inches.

In short, a sissy is a caricature of femininity, with every aspect of girlishness emphasized.

Sissy Dani asks:
How should a dominant woman respond to a male who asks to be feminized?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 20

Sissy Dani asked:
Is it ever proper for a sissy to appear in male attire?

Mistress Amelia responds:
Frankly, the answer is absolutely "NOT" but there are exceptions, mostly during the early feminization and sissification process. In many cases there may be a need, from a purely financial perspective, for the sissy to continue to work in male attire. However, the sissy MUST always be in girly attire outside of work. If there is the possibility of the sissy working from home, even for a day or two (Maybe more?) that should be encouraged. Eventually the sissy must not be allowed to wear male attire.

The male brain is quite natural feminine but also very weak. How a sissy dresses should always be up to his female master. No matter how feminine they look, males should never be permitted to wear pants. The male brain is weak and sissy's behavior only shows why society would be better off with women "wearing the pants" and running things. All males are sissies deep down and the best thing we can do for them is put them into chastity and frills. Of course being back in pants is horrifying and soon sissies will beg to be put back into sissy outfits.

I find it interesting that even the most resistant males learn to love their dresses and fear being put back into pants. Males are naturally very feminine. They are taught to fear their femininity. Frilly dresses bring out this natural feminine personality. An extended period of time wearing dresses ensures that a male fully embraces his femininity. That triggers their brain to reject all things masculine especially wearing pants. The sissy eventually rejects male attire. That is a major milestone in his feminization!

Petticoating is more than putting sissies into dresses. It is a different mindset for both the female dominant and the sissy. But being in dresses forces the sissy into an extremely submissive mentality. Extremely weak, vulnerable, helpless and exposed.

Question for sissy Dani:
Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage, strength, athleticism, coordination, testosterone, male libido, and stoic calm, all of which have traditionally been associated with masculinity and considered important to the male role in Western society.

The above defines sissy in a negative male sense. How would you define "sissy" in a positive female sense? What are the most desirable feminine traits that a sissy should possess and why?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue. episode 19

Question for Sissy Dani: What are the most appropriate professions for a sissy who needs to earn a living in the workplace? What skill sets are required for these professions?

Sissy Dani replies:

Naturally, the first response that occurs is the one traditionally associated with sissies: Maid. A well-trained sissy will have all the requirements of a good ladies’ maid—poise, fashion sense and knowledge, cosmetics, etc. In addition, should her employer require it (and most will, I assume), a sissy can serve as a bedmate, providing sexual attention.

Along the same lines, a sissy can make her way in the world as an escort or “call girl”. She is, again, already well-versed in the sexual arts and is used to being seen as an object of desire and lust. Of course, unlike most in her profession, her primary clientele will be dominant women, seeking an evening’s companionship and entertainment—although, occasionally, a gay man may request her services when it is necessary for him to have a glamorous “feminine” date.

A sissy who is good at flirting can likely make a living as a cocktail waitress, especially at a bar or restaurant catering to a lesbian/domme clientele.

Carrying the theme a bit further, a sissy may be engaged as an exotic dancer or stripper, provided her body has been suitably “altered”. For this profession, some dance training is required and perhaps some acrobatics and gymnastics as well.

Some dommes may prefer to have their sissy hired out as a personal assistant in an office environment. This job may also demand certain “favors,” in which case, the sissy will serve as what I have termed a “sex-retary.” Often such an employee spends more time under the boss’s desk than next to it.

I have seen it suggested that a sissy may make an excellent governess, especially for young men who are destined to be feminized themselves. In this position, a sissy is not only a teacher, but a role model for her young charge.








Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is it ever proper for a sissy to appear in male attire?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 18

Sissy Dani asked:
What is proper attire for the sissy who works in an office? Prim and proper? Sexually provocative? or something else?

Mistress Amelia responds:

That, of course, depends on the workplace and the sissy's boss. Here are photo examples by our favorite sissy when she was attempting to be an adult woman.

1. Skirt suit - very "Business Professional'. Very prim and proper

2. Classy and feminine - professional but allowing more diversity in dress

3. Casual - feminine but more relaxed

4. Sexually provocative - Very sexy. Turning heads and enjoying the attention

It's important to remember that sissy's boss will decide on her wardrobe and the image that sissy will present. Sissy has no choice in the matter.

Question for Ms Dani:
What are the most appropriate professions for a sissy who needs to earn a living in the workplace? What skill sets are required for these professions?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 17

Question for Ms Dani:
What are the most humiliating girly names for a sissy? I have read that a girly middle name is an absolute MUST for a sissy! At what age should a sissy be referred to by his girly name? How does having a real girly name affect the sissy's self-identification?

Ms. Dani replies:

I have a mix of feelings about sissy names. Most commonly a sissy is given a name that is a feminine variant of his male name, such as Donald becoming Donna or Charles becoming Charlotte. All well and good (after all my name is a feminine variant of my own middle name). And, yes, if that is the path the mistress intends to take, “christening” the new sissy as soon as possible is the best choice. I’d even suggest using it when he is in male mode (especially in public), as it will only add to the humiliation a sissy should feel from his feminization.

However, I think there are other equally valid choices to make. It might be useful to give the sissy a particularly silly or childish feminine name. Appellations such as “Trixie” or “Cookie” or “Ginger” will indicate to the sissy that he is not at all a “normal” girl, but a caricature of femininity. Again, referring to him by these terms even when he is wearing masculine attire will solidify his reduction in status.

And yet, there may be another way to go—don’t change his name at all. This may work best when his male name is something so obviously masculine that there is no generally accepted feminine equivalent. Names such as “Roger” or “Howard” or “Stanley”—when used for a male who is dressed in the most feminine and/or childish of manners—can be particularly humiliating. Imagine mincing down the street in heels and a miniskirt while your female companion calls you “Herbie” loud enough for all to hear!

Obviously, the choice should be the domme’s to make…and the sissy should accept it as the only thing he will be known by in the future.

Question for Mistress Amelia:
What is proper attire for the sissy who works in an office? Prim and proper? Sexually provocative?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 16

Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is it moral and ethical for a mother, step-mother, aunt, or other guardian to begin feminization of a male child at an early age?

For a child identified with gender dysphoria it is not only moral and ethical it is the right thing to do. It is advisable to find a find a therapist that specializes in gender issues. I have learned that if a child is insistent, persistent and consistent that he is transgender then it is a good indication that it is a reality for him.

I am not a professional but I feel that having life experience as a girl goes a long way towards deciding whether to make the more important decisions as the child approaches puberty. Specifically the issues of hormone therapy and potential surgery.

Gender reassignment raises complex ethical issues. It questions gender identity and the right to self-determination. Some highlight the right to access the medical care necessary to live according to one's perceived gender. Others worry about the potential rush into major medical decisions, especially among minors.

IMHO - I strongly endorse the feminization of a male child as soon as possible.

Question for Ms Dani:
What are the most humiliating girly names for a sissy? I have read that a girly middle name is an absolute MUST for a sissy! At what age should a sissy be referred to by his girly name? How does having a real girly name affect the sissy's self-identification?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 15

Question for Sissy Dani:
What are the schools of thought around sexual control? Some seem to prefer denial using chastity. Locking the clit up to prevent touching and wanking under all circumstances.
The other option is to allow a regimen of wanking on a regular basis (weekly, monthly, etc) under strict control of the mistress. Both approaches are humiliating to the sissy because they reinforce that the sissy had never been a real man.

Sissy Dani responds:

Actually, I believe the issue is not so much control of touching and wanking as it is absolute denial of “normal” intercourse with a woman. The sissy should never be permitted to penetrate a female in any way—vaginally, orally, or anally. His orgasms, if any, must come from other methods.

Certainly, regular wanking might be one method, preferably with the stimulation being provided by the Mistress, not the sissy himself. I have known some dommes who think the proper approach is to completely drain the sissy at every wanking—to cause ejaculation after ejaculation until the sissy cannot spurt again. The reason is that it is thought that a sissy who has been so drained is completely empty of masculine “contamination” and more easily feminized and dominated.

Other dommes believe the sissy should be trained to get sexual satisfaction in as close to a feminine manner as possible. They combine physical stimulation of the genitals with stimulation of the nipples (either “tweaking” or sucking), so that the sissy learns to associate such feminine sensations with ejaculation. Some report the sissy trained in this manner can be brought to orgasm by nipple play alone. In conjunction with this—or as an alternative—these dommes also teach the sissy proper methods of cunnilingus, creating what has been termed a “male lesbian,” as the sissy grows to prefer such a submissive performance to ordinary intercourse. Of course, this also provides the domme with physical sexual pleasure as well.

Still others reverse ordinary penetrative intercourse. Using strap-on dildos or vibrators, they invade the sissy’s anus. Done correctly, this can stimulate the prostate and cause an erection-less orgasm…one that, like a female orgasm, can be repeated multiple times in a short period. (Like the “draining wanking,” this can also reduce masculine contamination.)

Obviously, all these methods are humiliating to the sissy, as they force him to realize that there is nothing traditionally masculine left to him.

Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is it moral and ethical for a mother, step-mother, aunt, or other guardian to begin feminization of a child at an early age?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 14

Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is a male who has to be forced into femininity preferable to one who comes by it naturally?

A dominant female, like myself, enjoys the sight of a submissive sissy out in public. That type of sissy literally begs females for attention. It’s almost too easy to collar the sissy and humiliate him. It can be entertaining and pleasurable to sissify and feminize the willing sissy. Especially by taking sexual control through chastity or limited wanking. The sissy is so weak that the Mistress can make the sissy her dolly!

I do like a bit of a challenge. Among males who are drawn to feminization, “forced” is merely a way to make their submission to girliness seem more acceptable. “She made me do it” is easier to explain than “I begged for it.” Of course, not every cross-dresser is submissive. Some simply prefer feminine clothes and wish to present the image of a beautiful woman. But in my experience, those cross-dressers who meet with a dominant woman are quickly converted to subs.

I like to start with the sissy wearing bright pink lipstick. My favorite is "Estee Lauder Pure Color Envy Sculpting Lipstick - # 240 Tumultuous Pink.” I then require the sissy to remove his compact from his purse every half hour to check if his lipstick is still perfect. In time, it becomes a habit for the sissy--intense girlyness!!

Question for Sissy Dani:
What are the schools of thought around sexual control? Some seem to prefer denial using chastity. Locking the clit up to prevent touching and wanking under all circumstances.
The other option is to allow a regimen of wanking on a regular basis (weekly, monthly, etc) under strict control of the mistress. Both approaches are humiliating to the sissy because they reinforce that the sissy had never been a real man.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 10

Dani asked:
Have you ever so completely feminized and dominated a male as to make him a permanent sissy?

Mistress Amelia responds:

Yes, I have. But first I must define “Sissy” and “permanent sissy”. Sissy is derogatory name for someone, specifically a male, who seems weak or cowardly and acts and dresses in a stereotypically feminine way. A male who does not demonstrate masculine traits. One who is interested in things traditionally associated with girls and women.

Within gay, particularly gay male culture, is found the concept of the “sissy”, though it isn’t exclusive to the community. The word is most often used as a particularly hurtful synonym for an effeminate male, and its application in this particular context is meant to produce shame and derision. Sometimes it refers to a man who exhibits a particularly stereotypical notion of effete homosexuality.

In a transgender context, however, it most often refers to a biological male who willingly mimics and eagerly takes on hyper-feminine attitudes for the sake of sexual gratification. This is a behavior known as feminization and often contains an aspect of cross-dressing. The trans umbrella is the broadest one of all since gender is often one of the most poorly defined aspects of human expression.

There is a sharp definition between those who practice transvestic fetishism or cross-dressing, and those who identify strongly with the opposite gender in ways that go well beyond a sex act. The two are often related, though, particularly when one contemplates that feelings of humiliation linked to a reversal of traditional gender roles are present. It is worth considering how easily trauma can be incorporated into sexual desire and the act itself, even taking on a paradoxically pleasurable quality.

The two males that I feminized and sissified were already sissies but only part time. They tried to hide their sissy natures but not very successfully. What they had in common are being deeply submissive and craving to be out for who they really were (are). My denial of release only made them crave deeper sissification and my approval. They both currently live an ultra girly lifestyle.

Question for Ms Dani:
Do you believe there is truly a concept of “Forced Femme?” I think it is a misnomer. From my experience most males are terrified by it, but nevertheless, crave it! Their male sexuality only makes them more susceptible to feminization.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 9

 Mistress Amelia asked:

 Can hypnosis affect significant behavioral change?

Please share your interest in hypnosis as it relates to behavior modification.  Use examples of using hypnosis on sissy annie. and also on Holly who is a submissive female.

 Dani responds:

Yes, hypnosis can affect significant behavioral change. It has long been used, for example, to make the subject quit smoking. But I think the question here really is: Can hypnosis induce a new behavior or alter an existing one? In my experience, it can.

Putting her in trance, I was able to encourage annie to perform in certain ways (singing her sissy songs and reciting her sissy poems) and to respond to specific phrases. (I won’t go into detail on those). Similarly, I have strengthened Holly’s latent lesbian tendencies to a strong preference for sex with women. Further, when I realized she was, at heart, a submissive, I made it so her lesbian attraction was to dominant women, such as Mistress Amelia. In the course of that, I was able to change her attraction to Mistress Amelia to erotic devotion.

Though I have not done so myself, I am aware of instances in which perfectly normal men have been made into cross-dressers and sissies, through a combination of sensual touch and hypnotic conditioning. Put a man in trance, stroke his manhood with a pair of satin panties, and you can easily induce a fetish for girlish undies. Reward him further as he dons additional feminine attire and soon he equates sexual satisfaction with feminization. Some men—especially those with a history of overbearing mothers—can be regressed to little girls (though never as successfully as a “natural little” like annie will).

In women, it is possible to induce sexual arousal and even orgasm at a word or a phrase. With men, it is a bit more difficult, because the male sexual response requires a physical approach. However, arousal (erection) is possible.

 I hope this answers the question.

 Now, a question for Mistress Amelia:

 Have you ever so completely feminized and dominated a male as to make him a permanent sissy?

 

Childish and Sissy

I had a lovely chat with sissy annie and her mommy Holly all about their adventures on a recent Disney Cruise.  Mommy Holly told me that she packed at least a dozen dresses for sissy annie. She reminded me that sissies always wear dresses! How could they curtsy to people they meet otherwise? Of course, sissy annie loves to show everyone what a darling little sissy princess she is. She loves to introduce herself and give out her personal sissy card.

When Annie introduces herself she is always proud to says that "she is mommy's little sissy darling". There are also opportunities to sing and recite some of her favorite sissy poems and songs. When mommy says "sissy hugs" annie shows mommy how much she loves her mommy by hugging her and clinging to her mommy. 

Sissy Nursery rhymes

Nursery Rhymes for toddler sissy annie

Annie also brings a dolly with her on every cruise. She always has a dolly friend with her to keep her company. Mommy Holly told me that she never sees other little girls on cruises with their dolls.  That just reveals how truly childish sissy annie is.

Annie always brings stickers for the other children. She usually gives them out when they are all in line waiting to meet and take pictures with the characters. Annie loves to met and take pics with the characters. She loves to show them how childish and sissy she is. Frankly everyone knows that Annie is a sissy princess.

Mommy also invited 5 women to her stateroom to meet sissy annie and have annie perform for them and ask her questions about being a little girl sissy. Annie loved that very much because she loves being the center of attention.

Annie and Courtney meeting Stitch!

                    Annie and Courtney meeting Merida!

                            Annie meeting Minnie Mouse!

                                Annie in a pretty pink sissy dress!

                   Annie and Courtney meeting Remmy!

                    Pretty sissy Annie in her unicorn dress

                   Pretty Sissy Annie in her ice cream dress!

Pretty Sissy Annie and Courtney

                     Pretty Sissy Annie in her Minnie Mouse dress

I'm a little sissy

Short and sweet

Here is my curtsy

Here is my pout

When I get all pretty

I just shout

Little Miss Sissy

All About

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode four

Referring to Holly and annie’s situation, Dani asked:

Would you ever want such total responsibility for a submissive sissy’s well-being? I can tell you that I, personally, would never want to surrender myself to another person so completely.

Mistress Amelia responds:

That's an excellent question. In Ms Holly's case she truly wanted a child. Specifically a little girl who would not grow up. She explained to me, when I first met sissy annie, that her only choice was to find an extremely submissive sissy who was also a "little". That is a sissy with a persona of a child. Ms Holly totally immersed Annie in the lifestyle of a five-year-old little girl—pretty dresses, girly interests and the like. Have you seen Annie's princess room and playroom? That has had a major psychological effect on the little darling's psyche, with, of course, lots of positive reinforcement. Sissy Annie reached the point where she could not care for herself and needed a legal guardian. That means that Ms Holly is legally obligated to keep Annie safe, healthy and happy including financially. It's a big responsibility. But now they have what each other desires--Ms Holly has her little girl sissy who will never grow up. Sissy Annie loves her darling world of princesses and unicorns! So childish and adorable.

I know that I personally could not take that much responsibility for a sissy. I have feminized and sissified quite a few sissies. But that was always for a set period of time to reach specific sissy goals.

However, I am well aware of married men who have been sissified/feminized by their wives (with professional assistance) and been given a more traditional domestic role. The couple usually create a contract where the submission is spelled out in detail. The female has responsibilities for the sissy's well- being and the sissy's responsibilities are the new reality. In many of these relationships the sissy becomes the domestic. aka sissy maid, as it were, which I feel is the perfect role for a mature sissy.

My question for you:

Sissy Annie's goals are:
1. To be a dainty & delicate little girl sissy in the way I think, act and present myself
2. To completely accept female control and never question what I am told to do
3. To be proud to show everyone what a precious little girl and pretty princess I am

Please comment on the appropriateness of these goals and if you would update them in any way or add additional goals. Are these goals universal for all sissies or, if not, how would you write them to make them apply to all sissies?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode three

The next question is posed by Mistress Amelia:

At what stage of childhood development do you estimate sissy annie to be?

I'm NOT referring to a specific age. Her mommy says she lives the lifestyle of a five-year-old. Her love of her dolls is very substantial. What are her behaviors and her interests that help you pinpoint her development? One thing I do NOT see is any sign of independence. That's very normal for a sissy--total submission.

Sissy Dani responds:

It is clear that, psychologically, sissy annie is a pre-school toddler. Her devotion to her dolls and her Mommy is an indication of that. On the other hand, she is decidedly a physically normal adult male, something I discovered when she developed (with my help) an erotic reaction to wearing silk and satin panties. Her genitals respond to stimulation as you would expect. Her total submission, as you term it, is another sign of that arrested development.

She is somewhat narcissistic. She adores being admired and praised for her sissy-ness and is proud to show off by performing and revealing how like a little girl she is. Her entire situation is, I think, what a lawyer would call sui generis. It is its own thing; there's nothing else like it. Her legal status as a child, with a guardian, makes her unlike any other “little girl” sissy I have ever heard of.

And now, my question for Mistress Amelia: Would you ever want such total responsibility for a submissive sissy’s well-being? I can tell you that I, personally, would never want to surrender myself to another person so completely.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode two

 

The conversation continues with a question from Sissy Dani: “What is the proper age to begin a male’s feminization/sissification?” I think it is best to start at puberty, when it is easiest to tie all the necessary changes to his awakening sexual awareness.)

 

Mistress Amelia responds:

 

I agree with you,  it is best to start before puberty, but that would only be possible if we lived in a female-run society where feminization/sissification was an accepted norm. In that society, a specific percentage (25%?) of males would be allowed to remain as males for procreation purposes and other masculine jobs as per the requirements of that female-led society. The rest of the males would be feminized/sissified and trained in what are perceived as mostly female professions today. Nursing, secretarial, beauty, fashion, etc. Those males would be focused on their feminine appearance and their girly interests.  The most desired position for a sissy would be as a sissy maid to a dominant female. Only females would be allowed higher education.

 

In our current society gender affirming care for transgender males is becoming more prevalent. Female hormones should be administered before the onset of male puberty. I'm not an expert here but a professional will be able to determine, on an individual basis, when that should be. The sissy must be in a social environment where everything about his feminization/sissification is 100% reinforced.

 

Sissy Annie's birth mom recognized that he was a sissy at an early age. She began to  petticoat him at a very early age. I think she started him on female hormones about age 12. By then his socialization and interests were extremely girly. He was already in dresses full time, using makeup and loving his dolls!

 

Next Question: 

At what stage of childhood development do you estimate sissy annie to be? I'm NOT referring to a specific age. Her mommy says she lives the lifestyle of a five-year-old. Her love of her dolls is very substantial. What are her behaviors and her interests that help you pinpoint her development? One thing I do NOT see is any sign of independence. That's very normal for a sissy--total submission.

 

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode one

This will be a series of exchanges between Mistress Amelia Rodgers and me, Pretty Sissy Dani. It begins with this question from Mistress Amelia:

 "What do you feel are the three most critical aspects/trainings of sissification?"

Sissification involves humiliation. Feminization does not. A sissy is feminized to be humiliated and trained to be submissive (sissification). A crossdresser is feminized but isn't necessarily humiliated. There is some overlap between the two. Sissification is a subset of feminization, specifically focusing on acting like a sissy

 

Pretty Sissy Dani responds:

On the whole, I agree—but in my case there was no training necessary for either humiliation or submission. From the time I first realized I was a sissy (in my “tween” years), I was naturally feminine and submissive. I desired a dominant female to take charge of me and improve my feminine nature. She wouldn’t have to force me into anything…but guide me, especially when I resisted for societal and cultural reasons.

On the other hand, I think even a non-sissy crossdresser feels humiliation when seen in feminine attire—even clothes that are perfectly normal and ordinary for the occasion. He knows he is not a girl or woman and that society would view him as lowering himself by presenting as one. (Even though he knows, deep down, that such thinking is nonsense. In all respects, women are superior, aren’t they?)

Although I love seeing them, I have never had any interest in being a little girl sissy. My self-image as Dani ranges in age from about 16 to 30. (Yes, I continued to dress well into my 60s, but even then my style choices were more suited to younger girls--short skirts, very high heels.)

Acting like a sissy in that age range involves smiling and flirting, showing off the sexier side of your personality (but without descending to “bimbo,” which is a whole different thing). A sissy wants to be stereotypically girlish.

Does that answer your question?

Now, a question for Mistress Amelia: What is the proper age to begin a male’s feminization/sissification?

I think it is best to start at puberty, when it is easiest to tie all the necessary changes to his awakening sexual awareness.

Sissy spanking and punishment (by Amelia Rodgers)

 

Spankings are one of a Mistress's many training tools. Spankings are to be carried out immediately, no appeals, apologies, excuses, whining etc. on the bare button with panties down and always Over-the-knees (OTK). Using whichever tool Mistress decides is best (paddle, strap, hairbrush, wooden spoon, cane etc).

Regardless of who is there or locations. There may be some limitations to being able to administer a spanking, in which case the sissy is told that there will be a spanking later. This is terrible for the sissy as she knows a delayed spanking is going to be a punishment spanking as compared to a correction spanking.

Reminder Spankings - Given on a schedule as a reminder of sissy's status in life. Usually daily, OTK, with a paddle or hairbrush. Daily or weekly.

Correction spankings - when a sissy is learning a new task and is in learning mode. These spankings are to correct poor behavior or lack of perfection. Everything a sissy does reflects on her Mistress. Generally attended my Mistresses's girlfriends, and other sissies. 

If the Sissy identifies her mistake she may ask for a correction spanking - this sometimes prevents Mistress from having to administer a punishment spanking.

Punishment spankings - intended to reinforce learning and leave a lasting impression! When sissy has made a major mistake and/or generally embarrassed herself and her mistress! If Sissy is lucky she may be able to sit down in a couple of days after her spanking. 

All spanking is done at full strength. Sissy may not move or flinch, turn away, cover her bottom with her hands, if she does - count is restarted.  Sissy must count the stokes, audibly, if crying and the count is not heard, or is incorrect then the count is restarted. Sissy is not to cry out loud. Sissy must cry silently, and never complain.

Corner time follows a spanking.  Sissy is put into a corner with her nose on the wall.  Sometimes a coin is placed on the wall that sissy must hold there.  Sissy holds her skirt up to display her red bottom and considers her bad behavior.  This may last for an hour or so. After that time is up sissy thanks Mistress for her spanking and is allowed to beg for more.

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Regards , Amelia Rodgers