Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 12

Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is bondage an aid in feminizing a reluctant male?

Mistress Amelia responded:

The question really is does BDSM have a role to play in sissification and feminization? The standard definition of BDSM is that it is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism and other related interpersonal dynamics.

Dominance and submission of power are entirely different experiences, and are not always psychologically associated with physical pain. Many BDSM activities involve no pain but just the exchange of power and control.

There is physical bondage and mental/emotional bondage. Control and consent play a major role in feminizing a reluctant male. I am a strong proponent of TPC - Total Power Control. Once the submissive male gives up all control, the sissification and feminization processes become much easier.

Actually most sissies are so weak-minded that they can be easily controlled by chastity/denial. They will do anything for release. That is a strategy that I find very effective. It starts with physical bondage and then emotional/mental bondage.

Next question for Sissy Dani:
What role does humiliation play in a sissy's development?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 11

Question for Ms Dani:
Do you believe there is truly a concept of “Forced Femme?” I think it is a misnomer. From my experience most males are terrified by it, but nevertheless, crave it! Their male sexuality only makes them more susceptible to feminization.

Dani responds:

Among males who are drawn to feminization, “forced” is merely a way to make their submission to girliness seem more acceptable. “She made me do it” is easier to explain than “I begged for it.” Of course, not every cross-dresser is submissive. Some simply prefer feminine clothes and wish to present the image of a beautiful woman. But in my experience, those cross-dressers who meet with a dominant woman are quickly converted to subs.

After all, who knows more about being a glamorous woman than a true domme? Her whole persona Is built around drawing men into her seductive web. Any male with a penchant for panties, skirts and heels will swiftly succumb to the temptation of being a domme’s dress-up dolly. Will they become “sissies”? That depends on the domme’s tastes—some revel in making a man into a caricature of femininity, smothering him in lace and frills; others want something more of a “Barbie,” a well-dressed piece of arm-candy. Still others want an obviously effeminate man—not completely feminized but clearly not all masculine, either. Can any make be feminized? Presented with a strong enough feminine partner, yes. The reason women dress as they do is to attract men….and deep in every man is a sexual appreciation of the sheer beauty of a truly feminine woman, an appreciation that can lead, under the right guidance to emulation.

Question for Mistress Amelia:
Is bondage an aid in feminizing a reluctant male?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode 8

Dani asked Mistress Amelia:
Do you believe in permanent physical alterations to the sissy’s appearance (breast implants, facial surgery, hair removal, etc.)?

This is a feminization (biology) question. The hormonally induced development of female sexual characteristics. I strongly believe the sissy must be on a physician controlled regimen of female therapy. Estrogen is a steroid hormone associated with the female reproductive organs and is responsible for developing female sexual characteristics. Estrogen or estradiol is the most common form of estrogen hormone for FDA-approved treatment.

Sissification (activity) is a sexual/lifestyle practice where a male assumes a female role. A perceived societal shift of gender roles toward the characteristically "female". Most females are not "girly girls". Many are and love the lifestyle. But sissies MUST (and crave) be girly girls. Always in pretty dresses, a daily makeup routine and interests in fashion and all things feminine.

Feminization is the development of female physical characteristics (loss of facial hair, breast growth, etc. Assuming a (more) feminine, effeminate, quality and appearance. Hair removal (electrolysis or other methods) is necessary. Facial surgery, depending on the sissy, can be a significant help. Breast implants, depending on growth through hormone therapy, are usually necessary. The emotional impact of lovely and large (at least 36C) breasts on a sissy is significant. Sissies are so proud of their darling boobs!

Next question for sissy Dani:
Can hypnosis affect significant behavioral change?
Please share your interest in hypnosis as it relates to behavior modification. Use examples of using hypnosis on sissy annie. and also on Holly who is a submissive female.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode seven

 

Mistress Amelia asks:

How often should a sissy be given release, if at all. What considerations should there be for giving such a reward?

 

Dani responds:

Purely for health reasons, I think a sissy should be allowed to ejaculate at least once a month, but not more than once a week—and they should not be a result of the sissy “jerking off”. Rather, the session should always be under the control of the Mistress.

Some ways a Mistress might bring her sissy to orgasm:

1.    Stroking the sissy-cock with her hand, possibly while gloved in satin.

2.    Stimulating the sissy’s cock and balls with a vibrator.

3.    Penetrating the sissy’s ass-pussy with a vibrating dildo, making sure to stimulate the prostate.

4.    Any combination of the above.

I have seen recommendations that any such session be repeated until the sissy is completely drained of cock-cream; this is said to maintain the sissy in an emasculated and docile condition for up to 24 hours. On the other hand, others have suggested that a sissy should be kept in constant need of orgasm, in order to ensure the Mistress can keep a sexual focus on her.

It is also said it is useful to feed the cock-cream to the sissy, as a form of humiliation.

Clearly, if the sissy is on a regular schedule of release, then any form of misbehavior should result in a delay…possibly skipping one entire period of the schedule. Alternatively, if the sissy goes above and beyond in his duties, a special “reward” session is not out of order. And, of course, any sense that the sissy is begging for release should result in a long-term “drought”. Any evidence that the sissy has touched his genitals without permission should bring the same punishment.

And now, my question:

Do you believe in permanent physical alterations to the sissy’s appearance (breast implants, facial surgery, hair removal, etc.)?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode six

Dani asked:
If you could create your ultimate sissy, what would she be like—in clothing style, in sexuality, in presentation?

Mistress Amelia responds:

I have always desired to create what I consider the "classic" sissy. A perfect sissy maid in mind and body. A sissy maid who is 100% focused on my needs and desires. A sissy maid taken to total submission to my will. Her craving to please me in all things.

She would wear traditional Victorian maid outfits with seamed stockings and heels. She would have about a dozen maid dresses for many different purposes. A lady's maid's specific duties included helping her mistress with her appearance, including make-up, hairdressing, clothing, jewellery, and shoes. A lady's maid would also remove stains from clothing; sew, mend, and alter garments as needed; bring her mistress breakfast in her room; and draw her mistress's bath.

In addition she will perform all the domestic tasks including shopping, care and maintenance of the home and preparation and serving of all meals. She will shop in uniform.

She will be permanently chastised and collared. She will be leashed on occasions when the Mistress takes her out. She will be my sex slave giving me pleasure as per my preferences. She will be trained in the sexual arts!

Her appearance and demeanor must be perfect. Less than that will require severe punishment.

Next Question for Dani
How often should a sissy be given release, if at all. What considerations should there be for giving such a reward?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode five

Mistress Amelia asked:

Sissy Annie's goals are:
1. To be a dainty & delicate little girl sissy in the way I think, act and present myself
2. To completely accept female control and never question what I am told to do
3. To be proud to show everyone what a precious little girl and pretty princess I am
Please comment on the appropriateness of these goals and if you would update them in any way or add additional goals. Are these goals universal for all sissies or, if not, how would you write them to make them apply to all sissies?

Dani responds:

I think Annie’s goals are entirely appropriate for her and I wouldn’t change a word of them. In fact, in my interactions with her, I have been working to strengthen her ability and desire to fulfill them.

They are decidedly not universal goals for all sissies. Most sissies are, like me, only part-time in nature (although we would enjoy being able to spend far more time in our feminine guise). Most sissies are not interested in living as pre-school girls, or even as teenagers. For most of us, the goal is to be able to present as an adult woman—in whatever form we think is most attractive. I know submissive crossdressers who are quite content to be able to play the part of a woman of their own age, be it in their 20s or their 70s. Others have an idealized image; for me, it is the women I was most attracted to when I first realized I was a sissy—the fashion icons of the late 1960s and 1970s.

So, I would rewrite them this way:
1. To be a pretty and submissive woman when dressed in feminine attire.
2. To accept the control of superior women and obey them, especially sexually
3. To happily present myself in whatever guise my Mistress desires.

And now, a question for Amelia: If you could create your ultimate sissy, what would she be like—in clothing style, in sexuality, in presentation?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode four

Referring to Holly and annie’s situation, Dani asked:

Would you ever want such total responsibility for a submissive sissy’s well-being? I can tell you that I, personally, would never want to surrender myself to another person so completely.

Mistress Amelia responds:

That's an excellent question. In Ms Holly's case she truly wanted a child. Specifically a little girl who would not grow up. She explained to me, when I first met sissy annie, that her only choice was to find an extremely submissive sissy who was also a "little". That is a sissy with a persona of a child. Ms Holly totally immersed Annie in the lifestyle of a five-year-old little girl—pretty dresses, girly interests and the like. Have you seen Annie's princess room and playroom? That has had a major psychological effect on the little darling's psyche, with, of course, lots of positive reinforcement. Sissy Annie reached the point where she could not care for herself and needed a legal guardian. That means that Ms Holly is legally obligated to keep Annie safe, healthy and happy including financially. It's a big responsibility. But now they have what each other desires--Ms Holly has her little girl sissy who will never grow up. Sissy Annie loves her darling world of princesses and unicorns! So childish and adorable.

I know that I personally could not take that much responsibility for a sissy. I have feminized and sissified quite a few sissies. But that was always for a set period of time to reach specific sissy goals.

However, I am well aware of married men who have been sissified/feminized by their wives (with professional assistance) and been given a more traditional domestic role. The couple usually create a contract where the submission is spelled out in detail. The female has responsibilities for the sissy's well- being and the sissy's responsibilities are the new reality. In many of these relationships the sissy becomes the domestic. aka sissy maid, as it were, which I feel is the perfect role for a mature sissy.

My question for you:

Sissy Annie's goals are:
1. To be a dainty & delicate little girl sissy in the way I think, act and present myself
2. To completely accept female control and never question what I am told to do
3. To be proud to show everyone what a precious little girl and pretty princess I am

Please comment on the appropriateness of these goals and if you would update them in any way or add additional goals. Are these goals universal for all sissies or, if not, how would you write them to make them apply to all sissies?

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode three

The next question is posed by Mistress Amelia:

At what stage of childhood development do you estimate sissy annie to be?

I'm NOT referring to a specific age. Her mommy says she lives the lifestyle of a five-year-old. Her love of her dolls is very substantial. What are her behaviors and her interests that help you pinpoint her development? One thing I do NOT see is any sign of independence. That's very normal for a sissy--total submission.

Sissy Dani responds:

It is clear that, psychologically, sissy annie is a pre-school toddler. Her devotion to her dolls and her Mommy is an indication of that. On the other hand, she is decidedly a physically normal adult male, something I discovered when she developed (with my help) an erotic reaction to wearing silk and satin panties. Her genitals respond to stimulation as you would expect. Her total submission, as you term it, is another sign of that arrested development.

She is somewhat narcissistic. She adores being admired and praised for her sissy-ness and is proud to show off by performing and revealing how like a little girl she is. Her entire situation is, I think, what a lawyer would call sui generis. It is its own thing; there's nothing else like it. Her legal status as a child, with a guardian, makes her unlike any other “little girl” sissy I have ever heard of.

And now, my question for Mistress Amelia: Would you ever want such total responsibility for a submissive sissy’s well-being? I can tell you that I, personally, would never want to surrender myself to another person so completely.

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode two

 

The conversation continues with a question from Sissy Dani: “What is the proper age to begin a male’s feminization/sissification?” I think it is best to start at puberty, when it is easiest to tie all the necessary changes to his awakening sexual awareness.)

 

Mistress Amelia responds:

 

I agree with you,  it is best to start before puberty, but that would only be possible if we lived in a female-run society where feminization/sissification was an accepted norm. In that society, a specific percentage (25%?) of males would be allowed to remain as males for procreation purposes and other masculine jobs as per the requirements of that female-led society. The rest of the males would be feminized/sissified and trained in what are perceived as mostly female professions today. Nursing, secretarial, beauty, fashion, etc. Those males would be focused on their feminine appearance and their girly interests.  The most desired position for a sissy would be as a sissy maid to a dominant female. Only females would be allowed higher education.

 

In our current society gender affirming care for transgender males is becoming more prevalent. Female hormones should be administered before the onset of male puberty. I'm not an expert here but a professional will be able to determine, on an individual basis, when that should be. The sissy must be in a social environment where everything about his feminization/sissification is 100% reinforced.

 

Sissy Annie's birth mom recognized that he was a sissy at an early age. She began to  petticoat him at a very early age. I think she started him on female hormones about age 12. By then his socialization and interests were extremely girly. He was already in dresses full time, using makeup and loving his dolls!

 

Next Question: 

At what stage of childhood development do you estimate sissy annie to be? I'm NOT referring to a specific age. Her mommy says she lives the lifestyle of a five-year-old. Her love of her dolls is very substantial. What are her behaviors and her interests that help you pinpoint her development? One thing I do NOT see is any sign of independence. That's very normal for a sissy--total submission.

 

Mistress and Sissy: A Dialogue, episode one

This will be a series of exchanges between Mistress Amelia Rodgers and me, Pretty Sissy Dani. It begins with this question from Mistress Amelia:

 "What do you feel are the three most critical aspects/trainings of sissification?"

Sissification involves humiliation. Feminization does not. A sissy is feminized to be humiliated and trained to be submissive (sissification). A crossdresser is feminized but isn't necessarily humiliated. There is some overlap between the two. Sissification is a subset of feminization, specifically focusing on acting like a sissy

 

Pretty Sissy Dani responds:

On the whole, I agree—but in my case there was no training necessary for either humiliation or submission. From the time I first realized I was a sissy (in my “tween” years), I was naturally feminine and submissive. I desired a dominant female to take charge of me and improve my feminine nature. She wouldn’t have to force me into anything…but guide me, especially when I resisted for societal and cultural reasons.

On the other hand, I think even a non-sissy crossdresser feels humiliation when seen in feminine attire—even clothes that are perfectly normal and ordinary for the occasion. He knows he is not a girl or woman and that society would view him as lowering himself by presenting as one. (Even though he knows, deep down, that such thinking is nonsense. In all respects, women are superior, aren’t they?)

Although I love seeing them, I have never had any interest in being a little girl sissy. My self-image as Dani ranges in age from about 16 to 30. (Yes, I continued to dress well into my 60s, but even then my style choices were more suited to younger girls--short skirts, very high heels.)

Acting like a sissy in that age range involves smiling and flirting, showing off the sexier side of your personality (but without descending to “bimbo,” which is a whole different thing). A sissy wants to be stereotypically girlish.

Does that answer your question?

Now, a question for Mistress Amelia: What is the proper age to begin a male’s feminization/sissification?

I think it is best to start at puberty, when it is easiest to tie all the necessary changes to his awakening sexual awareness.